As many of my friends and family already know, my father in law passed away last Wednesday, April 16th.
Curt was a funny guy who always made me laugh. I am glad that my last memory of him was in the Caribbean a place that he loved so much.
Whenever someone dies I think about a book I read several years ago. I don’t remember the name of the book but the author was Elizabeth Kubler Ross.
Here are some of my favorite quotes by her:
“It is not the end of the physical body that should worry us. Rather, our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are.”
“The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.”
“Consciously or not, we are all on a quest for answers, trying to learn the lessons of life. We grapple with fear and guilt. We search for meaning, love, and power. We try to understand fear, loss, and time. We seek to discover who we are and how we can become truly happy.”
“We’re put here on Earth to learn our own lessons. No one can tell you what your lessons are; it is part of your personal journey to discover them. On these journeys we may be given a lot, or just a little bit, of the things we must grapple with, but never more than we can handle.”
“Death is not painful. It is the most beautiful experience you will have.”